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but i LOVE him?!

I had questions:

how much do i love me?
was it enough to let go of someone that i LOVED 

but i knew was no good for my future?

i decided YES and i know i made the right choice

“Can two people walk together, unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (NIV)

Why am i sooooooo sure?


letting go of someone who isn’t right for me and forgiving them opened the door for love to flow from me to another person. 


in my opinion, loving someone doesn’t mean  that you have to commit your life to them forever if they are not right for you.

my MATERIALISTIC 2012 resolutions!

So might be selfish of me but i’m sitting here post-Christmas gifts unwrapping and receiving and i’m thinking about the things that i did get (very grateful for) but the many man many other things that i do want.
I know i know…very materialistic of me! but i decided to just embrace it and create a list of things i intend (or at least wish) to get in 2012.

my Materialistic 2012 resolutions

  1. Designer handbag
  2. new car
  3. something from Apple
  4. A tablet PC: preferably Nook Color, Kindle Fire, Ipad
  5. new camera
  6. new phone
  7. a piece of diamond jewelry
  8. brown boots
  9. 32″ flat screen TV
  10. decorative house stuff: wall painting, throw pillows etc

** (12/28/2011) they say ask and you shall receive.
the new year hasn’t even begun yet and I already received one thing from my list.
i received new brown boots from a bestie for Christmas.
lets see how quickly the other things are scratched off the list.
***(03/27/2012) i’m updating this a bit late because to be honest, i didn’t even realize
 I was ticking something new off my wishlist. I got my new phone back in 
the beginning of February and boy was it an upgrade lol Yes getting this new phone
was because my old one gave out. But still it shows how when you write things down, sometimes life as a way of making it happen even without your help 🙂
***(04/09/2012) i got a tv!!!! not sure if its a 32″ but i think it is and it might even be bigger than that. Its not flat screen but you know i’m quite happy with that too. But best of all….it was free! Someday say Hallelujah
***oh and you know what else? I’m sitting here updating about the tv, i realize that I so also have some decorative house stuff. Only a painting and a vase set so far but i’m getting there and it will only get better 

last Christmas I gave you my heart….

the month when you were born
the month when we were born
the month that we became torn
A month that i will mourn.

This use to be such a special month for me. 

I made lame jokes that Santa brought me you.
3 days of celebration: your birthday, Christmas and then our anniversary
but last Christmas it all changed when December became the month when we finally gave up hope
 (or rather i did)
Now we behave like strangers.
No more passion, no familiarity…just cordiality.
Now i’m siting here waiting on your birthday to arrive just so I can call to wish you well.
Even though its really just another excuse to hear your voice


If A Man Wants You

I just came across this piece of advice and there is so much of it that is applicable to me life and that I agree with, I thought it was worth posting. lines that i love are highlighted.

If a Man Wants You

By: Salma Rumman

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve

then heck no, you can’t “be friends.”

A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself

a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,

Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has

more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.

Learning from the bottom…

rock bottom: reduced; well below normal (especially in price)

my rock bottom? when i showed you my boobs on Skype.
when i allowed the conversation to cross that line. when i changed us.
the reason? a “what the fuck not?” moment.
maybe it was curiosity.
in hindsight: it was clear stupidity.
but whats done is done.
and all i can do now is learn from my “rock bottom” experience and make sure that i don’t see this level again or atleast NOT on this issue.
because just as the definition says, its well below normal especially in price/worth and baby i know my worth! even if it was forgotten for a while

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