Tales Of Miss Scarlett

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Attention Seeking

“Hot sex and cold wine…come get it ;-)”

The above is an actual text message that I received from a not-so potential suitor.

At first, I did a ‘that’s so insane’ giggling session coupled with a WTF look on my face.

But the more I think about it, the more upset I got!

Not so much at this guy, but at myself and all the other females before me that I am sure received this same treatment.

Why?

because instead of telling this guy that his behavior was inappropriate, I played it ‘cool’ in the situation.

My response was a polite even witty way of saying no.

Why?

because in the back of my mind I still had intentions and high hopes of turning the situation around and making this guy that was clearly ‘Mr. Wrong’ into “Mr-Kinda-Right-For-Now’

Why?

Now this took a lot of reflection on my part and I think my reason is relatable to many other females.

I Like The Attention

(it was so hard typing that)

Now of course nothing is ever that simple and there are different depths to it but I think this is one pathetic  factor that I can work on.

I have always been one to admit that in an effort to avoid boredom I have got myself into a lot of trouble. Having a guy that is texting, calling and in general paying me that attention…helps alleviate some of that boredom and having multiple of these guys boosts my ego.

But am I bored enough to accept being disrespected?

Does my ego really need that much boosting?

The answer: HELL NO!!!

The solution: Show myself some attention

Sounds pretty simple I know. But for many of us, its easier said than done. However, it is often the solution to so many of our problems. Showing attention to myself and getting to know myself surely would firstly eliminate some of the boredom. Getting to know my own likes and dislikes so that I can develop a passion for something. There as to be a satisfaction within myself. An ability to enjoy my own company. So that next time I find myself alone, I won’t need a attention from a guy to break the boredom.

Because receiving text messages like the one above simply for some distraction is not OK.

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You have been forewarned

Don’t try and put me in a box
because I won’t fit.
You think i’m too smart, then that i’m too dumb
that i’m exactly what a woman should be but then say i’m not feminine enough
He says i’m too emotional and you say i’m not vulnerable
They say i’m outgoing but she thinks i’m too reserved.
My secret is that I am all of those and not quite any at the same time.
And until you can wrap your mind, body and soul around that concept
You can’t have mine.

Now you just somebody that I used to know

Now and then I think of when we were together
Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
I told myself you were right for me
But felt so lonely in your company
But that was love and it’s an ache I still remember
Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
But had me believing it was something I had done
But I don’t want to live that way.

*Somebody that i used to know by Gotye

Be yourself

Its all too easy to get lost in the ‘others’ of this world.
We need to be ourselves and do so fabulously 


the funny thing about happy endings….

they aren’t always like what we read in the fairy tales.
but if we really think about…wouldn’t that be boring anyway?

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