Dating Etiquette & Selling yourself
I have a fear of dating.
I am no good at it and I fear and hate things that I am no good at.
I have come to accept that dating is really like going on an interview. You get asked similar questions like
“Tell me a about yourself?”
“Where do you see yourself in the future?”
and while this might not be a question asked out right, it is one that is expected to be answered by the end of the date ” What can you bring to this relationship?” Essentially you are selling yourself and I am no good at that. Hence why the scariest thing to me about graduating from college, is the fact that I will have to go on interviews for jobs.
The entire process is nerve wrecking for me. I never have the right answers to those questions. I get quiet, shy, forget to smile and don’t let my personality show. Apparently all of which is a no no when it comes to having a successful date (and interview)
So at this point, i’m contemplating having prepared and approved answers going into my next date. This way I can respond in a witty way that answers the question while displaying my playful side. Something that is completely non threatening seeing that apparently I come across as being too strong and too intellectual.
No I’m not talking about dumbing myself down or changing who I am as a person. But improving my dating skills. And to me that includes being mindful of how I come across to other people and seeing where I can make adjustment. Because of course…I have many flaws!
Hopefully with practice, I’ll be able to iron out my dating technique.